Nearly every person has something they want to change about themselves, but not every person has the motivation to make the changes. Whether it’s becoming more assertive, kicking that old smoking habit, getting into shape or becoming emotionally fit, procrastination is often a common denominator, however, it’s not the only one.

Millions of people want positive personal change between where they are and where they want to be, but hit the brakes when they should accelerate. While some suddenly realize that these changes will be a challenging undertaking, others find themselves stuck knee-deep in fears and phobias. These fears can stop you from navigating into the areas of yourself that need changing, resulting in procrastination due to fear.

Fear of failure is one of the biggest fears that prevent the majority of people from achieving in their lives what they really want and deserve. Fear is that limiting factor which can truly destroy your life. That is why it is good to know that you learned all these fears; you were not born with them. Similarly, you were not born with limiting beliefs – you have learned them.

Research has shown that by the age of two, 50 percent of what you know about yourself and your capabilities has already been formed. By age six, 60 percent, by age eight, 80 percent of what you believe about your capabilities has already been learned. When you celebrate your 14th birthday you have already formed 99 percent of the belief base of your capabilities and your potential. This news is not very cheerful! However, you have to know that you were not born with limiting beliefs, but just thought you were. In the same way you acquired these limiting beliefs, you can dispose of them.

Making healthy changes remains easier said than done, even for those who are strongly motivated. Breaking old habits and adopting new ones, especially when they are emotional, often prove incredibly difficult — but not impossible! There has been considerable research aimed at learning what factors contribute to successful lifestyle changes and what factors hold us back from making these changes. A study conducted by the British Economic and Social Research Council found that when it came to behavioral changes, the least effective strategies were those that aroused fear in those trying to make changes.

It’s important to see that as humans, we will always be afraid of something. It is important to understand that fear, or any other emotion, will not hold us back forever. As a matter of fact, people who have fears tend to share the same common fears.

Many are afraid of failure, afraid of asking questions, afraid of new jobs, afraid of the future. They are afraid of making a mistake, afraid to confess that they’ve got a problem, afraid of diseases. Some are even afraid of success because they are afraid of being responsible for problems and failure in the company. Moreover, they are afraid of trying something new, of investing money in new projects, afraid of losing loved ones, of sickness, of change. They are even afraid of what others might think of them.

The damage that is caused because of fears and limiting beliefs is enormous, but too many are not aware of it. There is a simple way to change the things that are obstacles in your quest to use all your potential simply by changing fear into courage and changing your weakness into strength!

 
Article Author: Smiljan Mori is the founder of MindOver™ Network, Brilliant solutions for Performance, Motivation and Happiness. He has literally created a successful business and coaching empire from scratch and is a best-selling author and motivational speaker who brings unparalleled professional experience and the latest scientific research from neuroscience and positive psychology to audiences around the globe. He has shown more than 150,000 people from 50 countries how to change their lives for the better.

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Article References:
Motivaction For Life by Smiljan Mori
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/science-and-sensibility/201310/why-is-personal-change-so-tough-do
http://www.health.harvard.edu/newsweek/Why-its-hard-to-change-unhealthy-behavior.htm

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