How many outdated expectations are you hanging on to just because you’re used to them?

If you don’t know, then look around you. Look at any area of your life where you’re struggling or you wish for improvement. If something isn’t right, your beliefs and expectations are to blame.

Let’s take health as an example. You know you need to exercise more and eat less in order to be healthy, but if you’re not following through on those intentions, you are being sabotaged by your expectations.

For instance, you might expect that it’s difficult to lose weight because your whole family has always struggled with this problem. Unconsciously, you give in to that belief and you expect your own situation to be no different. Or, you might expect that exercise always leads to injury, just because you’ve been injured in the past. You want to avoid the potential of pain, so you avoid exercise. These expectations keep you from exercising, and they give you an easy “out” when it comes to indulging in fattening foods.

However, these expectations are based on false beliefs. Just because other members of your family have trouble keeping their weight down does not mean that you will. This is an incredibly disempowering belief! You decide what and how much you eat! You decide how much and how hard you will exercise! You and only you, have the power of choice and action!

Giving up your personal power to other people’s experiences does not serve you.

Likewise, the expectation that exercise always leads to injury is false. “Always” is an absolute. If exercise “always” led to injury, then nobody would do it. If you counter with, “Well, I always got injured when I exercised” then you are disempowering yourself again. What if you were coached in proper techniques and you learned how to exercise sensibly to avoid injury? Does the past have to be the same as the future? Do you have to be a slave to the past?

Beliefs can be hard to identify but if you look at your circumstances, you can work backwards and identify the belief. As you can see from this example, there is no reason why these beliefs can’t be changed, and along with them, your expectations. You can change false beliefs like, “I’m not good enough.” Where did this belief come from? Was it from one bad experience, or from a lifetime of being told that you aren’t good enough?

Can you think of something that you firmly believed at one time, that was later challenged and proven wrong?

Using the above example, if you change your expectations about your health and well-being, your results will follow.
●    You can decide that it’s EASY to lose weight when you eat right and exercise.
●    You can decide that it’s FUN and SAFE to exercise when you have the right coaching.

You can also use expectations to change beliefs. Train yourself to expect “just a little better” in any given situation. Expect people to be just a little nicer; expect yourself to be just a little calmer; expect just a little more willpower from yourself; expect just a little more dedication from your employees. Think of it as incremental steps, not giant leaps, and you’ll succeed in gradually raising your expectations to encompass all areas of your life.

Empower yourself with an expectations upgrade!


Article Author: Smiljan Mori is the founder of MindOver™ Network, Brilliant solutions for Performance, Motivation and Happiness. He is also the creator of Big U Academy, the Kitepreneur NetworkTM and Kitepreneur Lifestyle Academy. He has literally created a successful business and coaching empire from scratch and is a best-selling author and motivational speaker who brings unparalleled professional experience and the latest scientific research from neuroscience and positive psychology to audiences around the globe. He has shown more than 150,000 people from 50 countries how to change their lives for the better.

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