We’ve all been in that place. You have a pretty good idea what must be done, but you can’t do it. You know it is the appropriate thing to do, but you just can’t act. You are stuck. You mull the circumstances over and over in your head, but still you don’t really do anything about it. You wait…wait for life to come along and work it out for you. Then you accept the outcome. There are times when this approach might be okay, perhaps even the best choice; but most of the time we just don’t have the courage to make a decision.

That’s what it boils down to…courage.   Even when it is abundantly clear that one action is for the greater good, fear can stop us from acting of our own will.  What about the other action? Well, the fallout of that might also be unbearable, so we don’t take action either.  We must do one of the other. Repeatedly we return back to the same fork in the road, and we don’t act on either one, hoping that the next time we return there would be more clarity. Sadly, clarity hardly comes. Eventually, when we do act, a lot more damage has been done than was necessary…damage that could have been avoided if we only had the courage to act sooner.

Making decisions is a key activity in taking control of your life. It’s a skill in itself. Some people seem to have the ability to do it better than others. For these people, it seems to be an innate ability. For others, well it requires development. You have to practice. You have to flex those “decision-making” muscles. You can’t afford to wait around for things to happen. You have to confront your fear…fear of failure and of missed opportunities.

In order to develop the ability to act when the situation demands it, it’s ironic that the best ally is a more “passive” resource. It’s acceptance. When you can learn to accept life, then you are able to do more without being paralyzed by fear. Think about it. You can’t control everything. This is a fact. You can’t see the future (unless you are psychic or something, in which case skip this); another fact. You will make mistakes in life; but you can recover and move on. Accept all of this and you’re well on your way to being able to make tough decisions.

Acceptance is not so difficult. You do it all the time. If you’ve ever crossed the street at a traffic light, or gotten in a car with someone else driving, then you’re doing a lot of accepting. How do you do it?  You have to get to where you’re going,  you wouldn’t get there if you refuse to get in a car because you are afraid you might crash. It’s a risk you have to take because you are convinced that it there is almost no choice. Well, how about applying that acceptance to your decision? There are no guarantees in life (generally speaking). You might have made a mistake, but at least you had the courage to choose. You just can’t know that it would have been better if you hadn’t acted as you did. Accept this as well. It will give you confidence. With confidence; you are already half-way to your destination.

So step up to the plate. You can do so much more knowing that you are responsible for the choices that have delivered you to where you are in life.

 


Article Author: Smiljan Mori is the founder of MindOver™ Network, Brilliant solutions for Performance, Motivation and Happiness. He is also the creator of Big U Academy, , the Kitepreneur NetworkTM and Kitepreneur Lifestyle Academy. He has literally created a successful business and coaching empire from scratch and is a best-selling author and motivational speaker who brings unparalleled professional experience and the latest scientific research from neuroscience and positive psychology to audiences around the globe. He has shown more than 150,000 people from 50 countries how to change their lives for the better.

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