What do you expect to experience today? You probably have a lot of pre-programmed expectations about your commute, job, family time, etc. Are these expectations making you happy?

It’s common to expect things to be a certain way just because it’s the way they have been in the past. If you’ve struggled in the past, you expect to struggle again. If you’ve failed in the past, you expect to fail again.

Did you know that you give up happiness when you allow your expectations to be low? If you settle for expecting mediocrity, lack of willpower, struggle, lack, stress or failure, you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you’re trying to lose weight and you expect that you’ll end your workday too exhausted to exercise, you’ll go home and sabotage your weight-loss goals. But if you expect that you’ll feel good when you head to the gym straight after work, you’ll do that.

If you want to achieve a goal but you expect to fail, you’ll either come up with a million excuses – “I don’t have time”, “I don’t know how”, “I need to finish (x) before I start this,” etc. – or, if you do start, the temptation to quit will be very strong and you will do just that at the first sign of struggle.

You are pre-determining your life through your expectations! However, expectations are not set in stone. You can change them. You can simply make the decision that you’re not going to expect the same old scenarios to keep replaying themselves. You can decide that you expect better relationships, moods, money, success… anything you want. Train yourself to expect better. Beliefs, feelings, behaviors and results will follow!

Ask the question again: what do you expect to experience today? Erase your current expectations if they are not aligned with your vision of your ideal life. You don’t have to settle!

Change your expectations for the day. Instead of having another boring day at work, expect to learn something important. Instead of expecting a struggle with your teenagers, expect some cooperation. Instead of expecting to be stressed out during your commute, expect to enjoy a little extra time to listen to music and sing along!

Even small changes in expectation will have huge repercussions! You don’t have to overwhelm yourself and raise the bar so high that it can’t be reached from where you stand now. Small changes are good. Expect small improvements. You’ll find that small improvements in one area of your life will support improvements in other areas too.

Most of all, focus on the positive feelings of expecting more.

Starting right now, raise the bar. Set your intention to expect more from life. Expect more from yourself. Expect more from others. If your expectations are positive, life will respond accordingly.

 

 

Article Author: Smiljan Mori is the founder of MindOver™ Network, Brilliant solutions for Performance, Motivation and Happiness. He is also the creator of Big U Academy, , the Kitepreneur NetworkTM and Kitepreneur Lifestyle Academy. He has literally created a successful business and coaching empire from scratch and is a best-selling author and motivational speaker who brings unparalleled professional experience and the latest scientific research from neuroscience and positive psychology to audiences around the globe. He has shown more than 150,000 people from 50 countries how to change their lives for the better.

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