People with healthy self-confidence feel good about themselves for who they are and what they’ve accomplished. They’re able to appreciate themselves and deem themselves worthy, while acknowledging their imperfections. The difference between people with healthy self-confidence and those lacking it, is that self-confident people do not allow their faults to play an overwhelming role in their lives. Self-confident people also do not allow these faults and imperfections to cloud their self-image.

1. Since you cannot fix what you don’t know, it’s important to do a personal inventory of your thoughts as a first step. Make a list of 10 of your weaknesses and 10 of your strengths. This will help you see how you feel about your core self. Remember, no one is perfectly good at everything. Everyone has faults.

2. Setting unrealistic expectations is the surest way to set yourself up for failure. Whether your goal is to be a multi-millionaire your first month out of college, or you want to figure a way to have family members stop criticizing your every move, these expectations just may not be realistic. By setting realistic goals, you’ll stop your own cycle of negative thinking – thinking you’re a failure when such goals do not come to light – as well as stop berating yourself, which only reinforces negative self-confidence.

3. Change your mindset to aim for accomplishments and not perfection. You have to face facts – no one is perfect and not any of us can attain perfection. The idea of perfection – a perfect body, life, house, job – lives only in the media and on glossy magazine pages. This ideal life is an artificial creation of society. Instead, revel in your own accomplishments and acknowledge them for their value. A key is to accomplish your small goals and gradually move up to accomplishing larger ones. If you make mistakes along the way – congratulations, you’re human. Look back at your mistakes and see what you can learn from them. View them as an opportunity to grow so you can then push yourself out of your negative self-talk and move on to trying to accomplish your next goal.

4. Be open to trying new things. Engage in new opportunities, new viewpoints, thoughts and even friendships. Instead of allowing yourself to get down and feel as though you have nothing to offer the world, consider the fact that maybe you have not yet found the things you have to offer. They could very well be things you haven’t considered, which is why being open to trying new things and taking risks can help you develop your self-confidence.

5. Once you’ve begun to make these changes, now is the time to let go of the ‘old you’ and focus on your new self-image. Making new changes based on the old you won’t produce the results you want. Adjust your beliefs and opinions about yourself as you go along and evaluate your growth on all the things going right in your life.

6. One final and critical factor to developing self-confidence is to stop comparing yourself to other people. Unless they are an exact duplicate of you, which is highly unlikely, it will always be an unfair comparison. There is no more effective way to kill your self-confidence than with unfair comparisons. So what if someone else has more social media friends than you do. The only person you should be competing with is yourself.

Think about how much you have to invest in the form of time, effort, or money to engage a 0.5% a day change in yourself. This percentage is the equivalent of about ten minutes daily at a high level of focus. Do not forget: one single piece of advice, one idea, one sentence you overhear or read, one thought that catches your fancy somewhere, or one piece of constructive criticism can have a significant impact on your point of view. Stay positive.


Article Author: Smiljan Mori is the founder of MindOver™ Network, Brilliant solutions for Performance, Motivation and Happiness. He is also the creator of Financial Independence Academy TM , the Kitepreneur NetworkTM and Kitepreneur Business Success AcademyTM. He has literally created a successful business and coaching empire from scratch and is a best-selling author and motivational speaker who brings unparalleled professional experience and the latest scientific research from neuroscience and positive psychology to audiences around the globe. He has shown more than 150,000 people from 50 countries how to change their lives for the better.

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