Is it possible to pursue everlasting happiness? And can we purchase it from our money, beauty or power? Researchers have found that many people despite of possessing all three were not entirely happy in their life.  However, it has also proven that with certain interventions we can boost happiness and can stay with it whole year round.

Thus, there is probability to gather happiness on a day to day basis through small efforts and by adding some sweet to every day. According to Lear, life is comprised of small events to which happiness is associated. Reverence for these tiny successes and congregating them to enjoy life, will let us to get immense pleasure from the big ones.

True happiness is a choice and there are numerous systematic and natural ways to accomplish it to some degree. Therefore, one can increase the level of happiness with full determination and persistent effort by following few steps.

Step 1:
Taking the start of the day on the positive note indicates that the rest of the day will be unfolded in the same way. It strongly determines the individual’s capacity to face the stressors of the day and how he will manage them. Thinking positively about the day influences the feelings and expectations level. In short, we ourselves are responsible for deciding the nature of the day. So, in the early morning thanks to GOD for a new day and think positively that it would be a happy day.

Step 2:
Let go sad, unhappy moments and painful past memories and move on. Focus on the present and try to make it better and soothing. Try to recall good memories that gives you pleasure and makes you laugh.

Step 3:
Try to practice real smile as it substitutes worry and distress created by upsetting events. Moreover, thinking positively will helps us to fight more competently with our disturbing core beliefs and everyday challenges. In psychology, it is referred as a feedback hypothesis. A study was conducted in Michigan, which found that workers who give fake smile were more likely to experience stress, low mood and unhappiness as compared to individuals who generate true smile with positive thoughts.

Similarly, researchers have found that laughter alleviates all your stress and unhealthy emotions. It instantly lowers stress hormones, balances orthostatic hypotension, calms muscular tension and releases endorphin hormones.

Step 4:
Try to be optimistic and see the half glass full instead of half glass empty. Thus, happiness is around us only we have to look for it. Barbanel (psychotherapist of New York City) said that, happiness can be gained by randomly rewarding oneself with tiny daily life events of delight and joy.

Step 5:
Be close to your parents, siblings, spouse and children. They are a source of happiness and give us aspiration to achieve our goals. Strong bonding, sharing and closeness with them allow us to enjoy every moment of life. It is correlated with happiness and subjective well being. Thus, one should try to eliminate all the road blocks to happiness and engage with significant others, be in touch with them no matter how far they are. It creates a feeling of support and satisfaction.

Step 6:
As our life revolve around our work place, so job satisfaction is much important for happiness, well being and contentment with life. Therefore, strive to do well at job, engage in pleasurable work and grab enjoyment from it. When one is satisfied with his job and gets pleasure from it then there remains no more boredom effect. However, if it becomes inescapable then it seems to be more challenging and demanding. A research that was carried out in Claremont Graduate University came up with the findings that when people indulge themselves in absorbing work they derive more pleasure and satisfaction from it and it encourages them to overlook their problems and stop worrying. However, if job becomes intolerable then find some other one where one could meet peace and happiness.

Step 7:
Make friends that share a common interest, understand us and stand with us in hard time. The Terman study concluded that the relationships and interaction styles strongly influences one’s happiness and subjective well being. Moreover, individuals who keep sincere and helping friends are healthier and live long lives.

Step 8:
Daily exercise, adequate sleep and morning walk are pathways to successful and happy life. Exercise releases endorphins, maintains proper body weight, keep physically and emotionally strong. It has profound effect on one’s psychological state and therefore has proven to be an effective approach in overcoming distress. Shawn carried out a study in which he assigned depressed patients to three groups. Different treatments were provided to each group i.e. medicines, exercise or both. Although similar results were obtained initially, however; later it was examined that the group to which exercise was provided showed greatest improvement with only 9% relapse rate.

Similarly, evidence revealed huge benefits of proper sleep as it reduces negative emotions and keeps individuals fresh, active and happy. Sleep deprivation effects hippocampus activity thus causing hindrance in recalling positive emotions.

Likewise, a morning and evening walk is also healthy and full of enjoyment. Results of a study revealed that making time for outdoor activities for 20 minutes results in happy mood, sharp memory and advanced thinking patterns.

Step 9:
Live a life full of joy, happiness, satisfaction and live it according to your will and desire. Instead of satisfying the needs of others and fulfilling their expectations assertively put forward your ideas. Don’t act as a puppet otherwise people will play with your emotions and will manipulate you according to their requirements.

Step 10:
Lastly, focus on the triad of happiness that is comprised of thanking significant others, forgiving them and having concern for them. Write down thank you letters and gratitude journals as it brings happiness and satisfaction. Secondly, try to forgive others and show concern towards them.

Article Author: Smiljan Mori is the founder of MindOver™ Network, Brilliant solutions for Performance, Motivation and Happiness. He is also the creator of Big U Academy, , the Kitepreneur NetworkTM and Kitepreneur Lifestyle Academy. He has literally created a successful business and coaching empire from scratch and is a best-selling author and motivational speaker who brings unparalleled professional experience and the latest scientific research from neuroscience and positive psychology to audiences around the globe. He has shown more than 150,000 people from 50 countries how to change their lives for the better.

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